A Family’s Love Away from Home
by Roxanne Agbayani
Leaving home was not easy at all. Being separated from my loved ones, even just for a little while, was lonely and the thought of paying for my bills in dollars was very scary! Before I left, everything was unsure and uncertain. I was deeply discouraged. People back in the Philippines told me that it was an impossible venture because I did not have enough resources. However, amidst all the noise and chaos in my mind, I listened to the Voice of Truth. He told me to go and promised me that He will protect me and provide for everything I need.
God did not fail me. He provided people who gave me love and support. First, He provided financial help through my Aunt Valerie’s family, the Malabongas, who offered almost everything I needed before and after coming to America. They likewise supplied me all the items I needed to survive the freezing winter in Michigan. They also taught me practical skills (e.g., laundry) I needed to equip me for living in America. Second, my aunt asked her friends from Balikatan to help me as well. It is really nice that most of the members of this organization are IVCF graduates, for I myself am a current SVCF member at University of the Philippines Los Ba os. IVCF has always been a family to me, so it was exciting to meet Balikatan members. I first met the Concepcion family who joined my aunt’s family for Christmas dinner. The Concepcions are really warm and I enjoyed talking to them. I did not feel so lonely away from home on Christmas Eve because of their company. I also enjoyed our visit to their home where I played their grand piano. Ate Nanie likewise gave me many tips for surviving Michigan’s social environment since she herself was a graduate student at the University of Michigan.
When I was already in Michigan, I met Steve, Bethel, and Stacey Skinker. They visited me at the dorm several times and provided me with more needed items like bed sheets, pajamas, snow pants, hangers, etc. I was overwhelmed by their kindness even though we just met. They were also the ones who introduced me to their church, which I regularly attend now. And whenever I need help they are always around to assist me. Lastly, Edna Bargan and Mila Pascual friended me and introduced me to the Balikatan Facebook page. They have followed my progress in Michigan via Facebook.
Thus, my heart overflows with joy and gratitude for the love that members of Balikatan have extended to me. I praise God for touching your hearts. What you have done overwhelms me. I am amazed at how God provided a family for me though I am thousands of miles away from home. It has not been an easy journey for me, but people like you who supported me make my heart leap. I pray that God will bless Balikatan more and more. Thank you and God bless.
Roxanne E. Agbayani is currently an exchange student for the spring semester at Michigan State University in East Lansing, Michigan. She is a junior majoring in Family Life and Human Development at the University of the Philippines, Los Ba os, where she is a member of State Varsity Christian Fellowship (SVCF).
Reflections on my Heart’s Journey
by Bethel Trasmonte Skinker
February is the month of love. We see heart illustrations everywhere we go. The heart is a symbol of love, and most often, we convey our love in writing by drawing a heart. The heart was thought to be the center of man’s being. The saying “I love you with all my heart” is like saying “I love you with all of my being”. It is expressed to let someone know how much we love them. However, do you know that our hearts need tender loving care as well? We need healthy hearts so we must be good stewards of the heart that God has given us. Heart disease is the Number 1 cause of death in the United States according to the Centers for Disease Control. Understanding and controlling the factors affecting our heart’s health such as cholesterol, triglycerides, and sodium levels in our blood, along with exercise, are important ways to make our hearts healthy, especially for people over 50.
About 18 months ago, I underwent a coronary artery bypass graft (CABG) surgery. Coronary artery disease (CAD) is a common type of heart disease. My heart’s journey was not easy but it allowed me and my family to experience God’s faithfulness and sweetened our relationship with Him.
The week of August 10, 2010 was one of the warmest weeks in Lansing, Michigan. I was attending an annual work-related conference that week in Mount Pleasant, Michigan, about an hour drive from home. I had been feeling chest pains for a couple of days every time I walked to my car from my office and from the conference center. I thought it might just be the heat triggering my asthma, so I ignored it. Toward the end of the third day of the conference, I asked permission from my supervisor to skip the last day due to my chest pains; and to assist one of the water supplies I oversee, which was under a Boil Water Advisory (BWA) for almost a week. My supervisor agreed, so I drove back home that evening. To stay awake while driving, I kept eating corn nuts, which I love. I don’t know the exact amount of sodium in those corn nuts, but they tasted very salty. In addition to the corn nuts, I ate some gourmet buttery caramel popcorn, which also has a lot of sodium, sugar, and butter. Another thing that may have worsened things was my drinking several cups of coffee during the conference. What I ate and drank were probably more than 5 times the limit of the sodium, sugar, and caffeine intake for my weight. Perhaps I should have gone to a health conference instead of one about drinking water!
Later that night I ended up in the emergency room because of my symptoms. The doctor commented that I might have a heart problem. I was asked to stay in the hospital for observation despite my begging to sleep at home and just come back early the next day. I was given a blood thinner and was scheduled for a stress test at 7:00 AM the following morning. That first night, I shared a room with a patient scheduled for open heart surgery. Since we were only separated by a curtain, I could hear her crying fearfully, which I thought was not good for her heart. She apologized for crying loudly but I told her it was okay and I prayed for her.
I took the stress test and the results showed some abnormality in my heart rate. I was then scheduled for a catheterization. Catheterization involves inserting a catheter (small hollow tube) into a blood vessel in the groin and through the aorta into the heart. Through the catheter, the doctor can do diagnostic tests and treatments on the heart. The tip of the catheter can be placed into various parts of the heart to measure the pressures within its chambers. The catheter can also be advanced into the coronary arteries and a contrast dye injected into them. The dye will flow through the blood stream and into the heart. Then an x-ray picture of the heart is obtained. The dye makes the coronary (heart) arteries visible on the picture. Any blockage shown in the picture that can be fixed with a stent will be repaired during this process.
At that point, I still believed that my heart was fine, because I answered “No” to questions like “Do you smoke? Do you have diabetes? Do you drink alcoholic drinks? and Do you use drugs?” I was positive that I would be discharged from the hospital that afternoon. Around 10:00 AM that morning, I had my catheterization completed. Results showed that I had a 90 to 95 % blockage on my major artery (left anterior descending). The blockage was located just upstream from where two arteries branch out, which made the doctors unable to use a stent. The doctor explained that I would require open heart surgery. That news placed me on the same shoes as my roommate the night before and made me realize that my heart was not that healthy after all. One of my favorite verses to cling to when I feel lost or on the verge of taking a big challenge is Psalm 46:10, “Be still and know that I am God.” These words made me stop, think, and acknowledge God’s power over me. In addition, Romans 8:28 says, “All things work together for good to those who love the Lord and are called according to His purpose.” Believing these verses gave me the assurance that whatever happens to me (in life or in death) the Lord has a purpose and I need to surrender myself to Him. Although I was ready to die, I thought about my family, especially my kids. Are they ready for me to be gone? My prayer was for the Lord to help my family understand what was going on in accordance with His purpose in our lives.
As I digested what the doctor told me, I was telling myself, “Oops, conflict of schedule”. I was supposed to drive our son Kevin to Wheaton College that afternoon and attend a women’s retreat the next day in Wisconsin. I’m not sure how Steve conveyed the news to Kevin and Stacie and my extended family, but he did well. I prayed that the Lord would give me the strength and wisdom to communicate my condition to my family in a manner that wouldn’t cause fear but rather elevate their trust in the Lord and face the challenge with joy.
Kevin was just beginning college at that time and as the mom of a freshman, I really wanted to drive him to Wheaton College in Illinois to make sure he had all his needs. But I was reminded of Proverbs 16:9 saying, “Man proposes but God disposes.” Since Steve and I were unable to drive Kevin, Kevin ended up going with his soccer teammate from our area and Kevin did just fine. When he stopped to see me before leaving for Wheaton, I told him: “The Lord has great things in store for you, don’t let my condition slow you down. Trust the Lord and all things will be well. Enjoy every opportunity that the Lord is giving you even in difficult situations”. But while I was saying these words, I had tears in my eyes through my smile. Not a great way of encouraging a son to face the world and trust the Lord. He asked me, “Mom, why are you crying then?” My response was tears are not only for sadness but for joy as well.
I underwent a robot-assisted CABG surgery – high tech, but a less invasive surgery with a top-notch surgeon. The current technology is quite amazing. The surgeon did not have to open my rib cage, resulting in a faster recovery. Twelve days in the hospital and 2 months recuperation at home turned our family’s schedule upside down. As avid fans of our kids’ athletics, we frequently travel to their games. Our parenting pays off in great satisfaction as we watch them mature in academics, sports, and especially spiritual growth. I missed many of Kevin’s games during his freshman year, but watched most of the video-streamed college games on my computer. I also missed most of Stacie’s volleyball and soccer games that season, but I’m thankful for those parents who helped her.
Now I’m back to a normal life, although I’m not as physically strong and daring as before. My heart’s ailment caused many people’s hearts to show and practice God’s love and opened the hearts and minds of others to appreciate God’s love, grace, and authority amongst us. Looking back, we are amazed at how the Lord orchestrated things so that our family’s physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual needs were provided for. We cannot find a reason to complain of that experience, for it only brought fullness to our faith in Christ. Many people, some of whom I do not even know, prayed for me and my family; provided transportation for our kids, extended words of comfort, and delivered meals to our home. Thanks to all for what you have done for our family during that crisis. You have glorified the Lord by what you did.
I am very grateful to the Lord on how he turned this difficult situation into something that gives our family happy and cherished memories. Some highlights are: I was pampered and nursed by my older sister, a nurse in Chicago, for a couple of weeks; and then by my younger sister, an orthodontist from the Philippines, for 3 months. I did not have to go to work but got paid. My family received many delicious meals. I even got a handicapped parking sticker.
I heard many well-wishes and prayers from family and friends all over the world. There were many hospital visits from friends and prayer time with them. My favorite one was a visit from our former church growth group leaders. They prayed and sang songs (“Great Is Thy Faithfulness” and “How Great Thou Art”) with us. That brought back memories from my childhood of accompanying my pastor-father, while he visited the sick. Our visits included singing, Bible meditation, and prayer time.
A Letter from Special Projects’ Committee Chairperson
Greetings in the name of Jesus, the Lover of our soul, as we celebrate Valentine’s Day this month!
If you remember, the Board launched a CAMP FUND-RAISING PROJECT in December. While we had a generous outpouring of donations that month, we only received $900 out of the $6,000 target goal for the summer camps. Now that IVCF is busy preparing for its camps that start in April, we’d like to remind you of this financial need. To repeat some information I presented last time, these camps total eight camps, plus Operation Samaria and Beach Mission (short-term missions). There are different Tracks: tribal, beach, cross-cultural/country missions trek. Camp Purposes: Intensive leadership training, Missions awareness/ involvement/ challenge, Evangelism, and Discipleship for new believers. Registration fees: On average P10 -12k for campus delegate and P14 – 16k for church delegate, less for high school students. Camp duration is 6 days including travel; Kawayan Camp is a month long.
Subsidies are raised for the camp staff, counselors, and speakers. Delegates raise their own registration fees. Both come from donations or contributions from alumni, friends, families or churches. Students usually engage in work-for- a-cause, and the campus chapters and regions help raise funds for their delegates. Regional camps raise their own subsidies. IVCF appeals to donors and alumni for the camp subsidies: KC – being a national camp, 90% abroad; 10% local donors; and all other camps – 80% local; 20% abroad. BALIKATAN WOULD LIKE TO RAISE ITS SHARE OF $6000.00 FOR THESE CAMPS.
To hear first-hand from students who were blessed by these camps, we asked for their testimonies. Click here to watch video clips of student testimonies. Please CLICK HERE to donate to IVCF SUMMER CAMPS and write “Camps and Conferences” on the Comment Box provided. You may also send your check made payable to Balikatan to our Treasurer, Edna Bargan at
Balikatan
C/O Edna Bargan P.O. Box 4910
Alexandria, VA 22303
Thank you for partnering with us in this ministry. May the Lord continue to richly bless you and your family.
In His Service,
Lilia Salazar-Nigro
Board Member and Special Projects’ Committee Head



After the exciting and challenging years as a single staff worker in the Philippines, I thought that God had already taught me many important lessons in relying on Him for everything. Faith replaced fear as I rode rickety small boats and dangerous big ones, island-hopping in the Visayas, or as I waded through the flood waters of the overflowed Pasig river to reach students in Manila campuses. I learned to trust that the (very) modest staff salary would always be enough. I learned that he could make me well as I got quite sick with typhoid and pneumonia and had to abandon responsibilities in Iloilo for a couple of months. When schools closed due to the declaration of martial law, I saw how He stirred our creativity in reaching students outside the campuses. All in all, those staff years were indescribably happy, fulfilling ones for me, and I often reminisce those spiritual mountain-top experiences. Seeing God produce fruit among students was intoxicating. I could be in the frontlines all my life, I thought.
The Balikatan Board in its recent monthly meeting decided to deduct 5% of donations to IVCF Philippines, effective July 1, 2012, to augment Balikatan’s annual operating funds. Any balance remaining in the operating funds at the end of every fiscal year will be remitted to IVCF Philippines.
The IVCF Philippines alumni group in Edmonton (Alberta) met last 15 October to formally organize themselves. Joel Cavida was elected as their president, Joel Sotocinal as vice president, Leah Marquez-Curtis as secretary and Grace Licardo as treasurer.